In a recent article for Wired magazine, Kristen Berman and behavioral economist Dan Ariely share their experience hosting a dinner party with one key rule: "Absolutely no small talk."
Apparently, the guests were all the happier for it — and the authors conclude in their headline that "small talk should be banned."
Whether this sounds to you like a great idea or a terrifying prospect, the fact is that most event organizers won't go so far as to prohibit small talk — so you'd best get good at it.
To help you out, we checked out Quora, Reddit, and other resources, and highlighted some of the best tips for upping your small-talk game. You can even make a habit of practicing with strangers you'll probably never see again, since research suggests that making conversation with fellow commuters leaves people happier.
Read on to impress new acquaintances — and yourself — with your masterful conversation skills.
1. Demonstrate interest in your conversation partner
Several Quora users said the best way to keep a conversation rolling was to show you care about what the other person has to say.
"If you don't fundamentally care about the person you are speaking with, that will show, and that may be the primary reason why you are running out of things to discuss," Kai Peter Chang writes.
That also means letting your conversation partner share information about himself or herself.
"Let the other person speak more," Anam Gulraiz writes. "People LOVE talking about themselves."
2. Ask open-ended questions
Instead of asking yes/no questions that lead to dead ends, encourage your conversation partner to share some more detail about his or her life.
"In general, open-ended questions lead to more conversational paths,"Craig Weiland says.
For example, instead of asking a fellow party guest, "Are you here with your family?" you might ask, "How did you meet the host?"
3. Allow your conversation partner to teach you
"If there's a subject you're not familiar with, just be honest with that person and nine out of 10 times they'll teach you about it," Michael Wong writes.
It goes back to that central idea of letting other people do most of the talking. Asking other people to explain what they mean might prompt them to talk for at least another few minutes.
See the rest of the story at Business Insider
from Strategy http://www.businessinsider.com/9-ways-to-get-better-at-small-talk-2016-11
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