- We heard lots of great advice in 2018. The best tips are listed below.
- Topics included relationships, careers, and productivity.
- For example, we learned about eliminating temptation to curb bad habits and spending more time with friends and family to feel less busy.
Good life advice can be hard to come by.
But in the past 12 months, we've heard lots of it. Experts on relationships, careers, and productivity have bequeathed upon us their wisdom and experience.
As the year winds down, we're highlighting some of the very best tips we received. Read on for the best life advice of 2018.
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Eliminate temptation to curb bad habits
In his book "Atomic Habits," James Clear debunks the idea that the most disciplined people have the strongest willpower.
Instead, he writes: "'Disciplined' people are better at structuring their lives in a way that does not require heroic willpower and self-control. In other words, they spend less time in tempting situations." For example, if you want to stop mindlessly snacking during the workday, you might take a different route to the office bathroom.
Some research backs up Clear's point, too. So stop feeling bad about yourself, and start tricking yourself into better habits.
Spend more time with friends and family to feel less busy
"People expand time," writes Laura Vanderkam in her book "Off the Clock."
Vanderkam is a time-management expert and she came to this realization after reviewing her research on more than 900 people who kept time logs and answered questions about how they felt about their schedules. People who had made time the day before for the important people in their lives were more likely to say they generally had time for the things they wanted to do.
Vanderkam thinks the social activity leads directly to the feeling of freedom: A night spent browsing social media probably won't be especially memorable or joyful, but a night spent visiting a friend probably will be.
It's all about intentionality: Vanderkam urges readers to set "relationship priorities," like calling one friend to catch up when you get home from work.
Don't try to make your spouse happy
The worst possible piece of relationship advice out there, according to Hal Runkel, is the idea that "you're supposed to meet each other's needs and make each other happy." It's "BS," Runkel said.
Runkel is a licensed marriage and family therapist, and he said each person in a couple should, ideally, be happy and healthy on their own.
"I am a whole person," Runkel said. His wife "is not powerful enough to complete me. I'm not powerful enough to complete her. She's a complete person. That's why I want her. Not because she's half; she's whole."
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